Friday, 1 January 2021

2020... You weren't so bad

You've probably read the title of this post and thought what is she on but hear me out... 

2020 will be known for a lot of things - a global pandemic, horrific loss of life, the year we all ran out of toilet roll apart from a few selfish souls and the one where we stayed at home. Over the last few weeks while I've taken a much-needed break with my family I've been reflecting a lot on this year and the positives it gave to us because unbelievably there were some. 

This time in 2019 we had just wrapped up Christmas and New Year and ya know what? I was exhausted. The lead up to December saw me at numerous events, reviewing shows and Christmas menus as well as creating my Christmas content and by the time the big day actually rolled around I was tired and full of a cold. My much-needed break over the festive period was just a few days long before I was back at my desk writing, creating and doing my tax return. 

This year, however, has given me the beauty of time, something I didn't appreciate until this year...

I've mentioned a few times over the year how the pandemic has put things into perspective for me and it's true - in a strange way I needed it, I just wish it hadn't been at the cost of so many lives, our economy, redundancies and so much more. 

We've missed our family terribly and I cannot wait to give them all a very long overdue hug but for our own little family unit of three, it's been just what we needed. This time has been the longest we've all spent together since Arran's paternity finished in November 2017 which makes me kinda sad. Sure we live together and have our evenings and weekends to make memories but in the midst of work, everyday life, chores and everything else we've never just had weeks to do as we please. 

It's been freeing, it's put a lot into perspective and it has really made us think about what we want our lives to look like going forward.

This time has also given me a chance to slow down. In normal circumstances, I'm a stay at home mum during the day and blogger in the evenings - whether that's working at home, out at events or away on press visits. My time is usually pretty chocker with things to do and having everything cancel one by one in March last year meant I really did have a lot of spare time all of a sudden and it's been nice.

I know I've been lucky and in a fortunate position - I have a loving partner, a wonderful son, amazing family and friends and a job that enables me to work anywhere all while being the primary carer. Sure, a little more money might help or a holiday home in a far-flung hot country but overall I love the life I've built with Arran and the ease of our day to day lives but there's nothing quite like isolation to really make you take stock of what you have.

The stresses have quite obviously taken their toll at times - I've cried, shouted and curled into a ball but I've also laughed and smiled a lot, I feel like I've gone through every emotion over the last year as the reality of what is happening hits closer but it's also shown me what I'm grateful for. 

We took things back to basics with so much last year - nature, adventures, cooking and baking and our lives in general and with 2021 looking to be much the same with a national lockdown imminent our aim is to do similar minus the rush to make a hobby out of everything which was our mistake during the first lockdown. 

That's not to say I don't miss life pre-pandemic, of course I do but in a strange roundabout way it has shown us what we value most and we needed that. 

We're all so go, go go that sometimes you just need to stop and take stock of what you have instead of worrying about what we don't have. 

Although if a wedding could be in our plans soon without another postpone that would be great too! 

How do you feel about 2020?



  1. I totally get that! The one good thing about 2020 was slow living! Being in lockdown had its perks and gave some kind of calmness.

  2. I’m much the same as you, the time I’ve had at home to spend with the mister has been absolute bliss and I’m going to enjoy it whilst I still can, despite the circumstances we live in x

  3. I think it’s important to try and recognise the positives of any situation. I’m glad you didn’t have a bad 2020 on a personal level. I think last year definitely gave us all some valuable lessons x

  4. This is such a lovely reflective post. Now that 2020 is over, I do look back and appreciate all those things it taught me more. I feel like despite all of the horrible things that happened, 2020 was our reset button and a way of being able to re-evaluate what is important to us.

  5. For me, 2020 wasn't too bad overall but December was a horrific month x

  6. I can definitely relate to what you've said in this post. As much as overall 2020 was horrific, I can find some positives and I know for a fact it will make me so much more grateful going forward for things I know I took for granted before. Whilst I miss normal life, there were definitely moments I'll look back on fondly xx

    Tiffany x

  7. Thanks for sharing, this last year have had it's ups and downs :)

    Nic | Nic's Adventures & Bakes

  8. I know what you mean; I don't hate a slower pace of life and it's really brought into focus for me that work isn't everything, there's so much that's more important to me in life

    Jasmine xx

  9. I completely agree about using the time wisely and no longer getting caught up with being too busy for quality time. I'm all for a slower pace of life! Ruth |


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