Tuesday, 21 May 2019

The Rewards You Experience After Becoming A Mum

Should you be a mum, you probably don't need us to tell you about the many rewarding aspects of motherhood. We are going to list a few of them in this article, and we're sure you will be nodding your head in agreement. 

However, if you are still on the fence about becoming a mum for the first time, perhaps because you don't know if it's right for you, we might just be able to change your mind. You see, while you will experience more than a few sleepless nights, and while you will have a few extra chores to do around the house, you should find that the positives of becoming a mum far outweigh any so-called negatives. 

So, before you reorder your contraceptive pill, and before you tell your mum friends that motherhood is alright for them but it's not really for you, consider the following.

You will develop a new sense of purpose
No matter how meaningful your life is at the moment, you will discover a great sense of meaning in your life when you become a mum. You will have a reason to get out of bed in the morning (and not only because you have been woken by your child's cries). This is because you will be focussed on the care your little one needs, and while it can be hard work, you will soon experience the rewards when your child starts to develop into the person that you are helping them to be. Your child will become your new mission in life, and everything else that you thought was important to you might soon pale into insignificance.

You will have fun together

Okay, so the neverending cycle of nappy changing isn't particularly enjoyable, and neither are the moments when your little one throws a tantrum. But these things are ruled out by the many enjoyable moments you will share with your child. We are thinking of those moments when you both become lost in the world of pretend play. We are thinking of those moments when you're out in the world on walks together. And we are thinking of those moments when you're playing games, building blocks, watching Peppa Pig on the TV, and the many other things in the day that you will spend your time doing alongside your young one. You will also have an excuse to be silly again, and let loose your inner child, away from the adult concerns that so many of us spend too much of our time caught up in. 

You will be healed by their joy

Life can be stressful, we know. There will be days when you're tired because of work, angry at the world around you, and frustrated by such things as household bills, irritating neighbours, and those other things, both large and small, that get you down. Thank goodness for your little one then. When you see them smile at you as you walk through the door, your burdens and concerns will start to fade away. When they throw their arms around you in love, you will forget about those people who have rubbed you up the wrong way. And when they giggle, find joy in their own accomplishments, or do something funny, you will discover that, despite all the stresses in your life, that all is right in your world. As we said, you will be healed by their joy. 

You will be blessed by the milestones

Hearing your child say their first word is a wondrous thing. And so is seeing them crawl for the first time, and watching them take their first tentative steps on their own two feet. And then there are all those other milestones that will give you cause to celebrate, such as their first go on the potty, the first time they catch a ball, and the day when they start to feed themselves without your intervention. And here's the thing. While these baby milestones are all part and parcel of your child growing up, many of them are as a direct result of the things you have done to help them along the way. The satisfaction you feel will be immense, almost as much as the satisfaction your child will feel when they start to do something that previously seemed difficult to them. 

You will become a better person

No longer will you spend your money frivolously, as you will start to save money with the needs of your child in mind. No longer will you indulge in things that are bad for your health, as in your effort to be a good role model for your child, you will take steps to manage your bad habits. And no longer will you stomp around the home uttering naughty words, as you won't want your child picking anything up that they might later repeat at school or in front of your friends. You will also pick up skills through your role as a mother, such as time-management when you're trying to manage the needs of your household, and the art of negotiation when you're trying to get your little one to follow your instructions. Sure, you might never be a complete saint, but when you become a mum, you will start to become a much better person. 

You will become healthier

We already alluded to this above, but are other ways in which your health can be affected. You will be exercising more, for one thing, not only when playing active games with your child, but also when you're taking them for walks around the park and neighbourhood. In an effort to encourage your child to eat healthy foods, you will start eating them too, so this is another way in which your health will improve. Because you will be laughing more at their child-like antics, and because of the joy they will bring you in other ways, you will experience the benefits to your mental health. And as this article suggests, after becoming a mother, you have the reduced risk of cancer and a range of female disorders. So, in all kinds of ways, being a mum has positive effects on your overall health and wellbeing. 

You will be leaving a lasting legacy

The work you do as a mum will have lasting effects on the world. By teaching your child how to behave kindly to others, and by teaching them how to look after the world they live in, you will leave a legacy behind you. You will see the fruits of this when you watch them go through school. You will see your positive values reflected in them when they make choices in life, both as a child and as an adult. And you might start to see the ripple effects of what you have taught your child through their own children whey they come of age. If you ever wanted to make a positive difference in the world, motherhood can afford you this possibility. So, remember that within all of the life lessons you teach your child. 

Motherhood is great, and while it might not be for everybody, it is certainly worth considering if you are still feeling undecided. So, despite the dirty nappies, lack of sleep, and a mounting list of household chores, reflect on what we have said in this article. And if you are a mum yourself, and if you have anything else to add to our short list of rewards, please share your own suggestions with us.


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